Expect the things you want, and don't expect the things you don't want

The Secret (Hardcover) - 『시크릿 』 원서 ㅣ The Secret 1
론다 번 지음 / Atria Books / 2006년 11월

I am so happy to read 'The Secret'.

It is the first time to read a self-help book written in English.

Among self-help books I have read, it is the best. 

It inspires me so much.

In addition, written English is easy for me to understand.

I would strongly recommend people who are studying English to read it.

I think this book contains all self-help books.

*If you think unkind thoughts about someone else, you will experience those unkind

thoughts manifested. You cannot harm another with your thoughts, you only harm You.

If you think thoughts of love, guess who receives the benefits-you!

So if your predominant state is love, the law of attraction or the law of love responds

with the mightiest force because you are on the highest frequency possible. The

greater the love you feel you and emit, the greater the power you are harnessing.

*Hold an image of talking to an old friend that you haven't seen for a long time. Somehow

or another somebody's going to start talking to you about that person. That person's

going to phone you or you'll get a letter from her.

*Expectation is a powerful attractive force, because it draws things to you.

As Bob Proctor says, "Desire connects you with the thing desired and expectation draws

it into your life. "Expect the things you want, and don't expect the things you

don't want. What do you expect now?

*Decide what you want. Believe you can have it. Believe you deserve it and believe

it's possible for you. And then close your eyes every day for several minutes, and

visualize having what you already want, feeling the feelings of already having it.

Come out of that and focus on what you're grateful for already, and really enjoy it.

Then go into your day and release it to the Universe and trust that the Universe will

figure out how to manifest it.

*To attract money, you must forcus on wealth. It is impossible to bring more money into

your life when you are noticing you do not have enough, because that means you are

thinking thoughts that you do not have enough. Focus on not enough money, and you

will creat untold more circumstances of not having enough money. You must focus

on the abundance of money to bring that to you.

*Giving is powerful action to bring more money into your life, because when you are

giving you are saying, "I have plenty." It will not be surpring to you to learn that the

wealthiest people on the planet are the greatest philanthropists. 

*The good news is that the moment you decide that what you know is more important

than what you have been taught to believe, you will have shifted gears in your quest

for abundance. Success comes from within, not from without.

*You deserve every good thing you want, and the Universe will give you every good

thins you want, but you have to summon it into your life. Now you know The Secret.

You have the key. The key is your thoughts and feelings, and you have been holding

the key in your hand all of your life.

*You cannot help the world by focusing on the negative things. As you focus on the

world's negative events, you not only add to them, but you also bring more negative 

things into your own life.

Instead of focusing on the world's problems, give your attention and energy to trust, love,

abundance, education, and peace.

-Thanks to Jason who recommended me this book. 

템플스테이식 교육법?

스님의 자녀 수업 - 내 아이가 행복해지는 템플스테이식 교육법
승한 지음 / 경향에듀(경향미디어) / 2012년 12월

"아이에게 필요한 건 부모의 관심과 사랑이다.

부모에게 필요한 건 아이의 초롱초롱한 눈망울과 해맑은 웃음이다.

순결한 마음과 꽃 같은 행동이다.

부모에게 아이는 꿈이고, 소망이고, 보람이다.

아이는 부모의 연속체이고, 분신이다.

그러나 '남'이고 '타인"이다."

"부처님은 인간에게 세가지 기본 번뇌가 있다고 하셨다.

욕심과 화와 어리석음이다. 그 가운데 욕심을 맨 앞에 둔 것은 욕심이 모든 번뇌의 우두머리기

때문이다."

아들 학교 도서 도우미 봉사 갔다가 '템플스테이식 교육법'이라는 글귀에 끌려 빌려 왔는데...

새벽예불, 명상, 발우공양, 울력을 기본으로 실천하면 훌륭한 자녀교육을 이룰 수 있다는,

실천하기에 무척 어려운 이야기들만 가득해서 꼼꼼히 다 읽기에 무척 벅차다.

기독교에 바탕을 둔 '다니엘 학습법'이 떠오른다.

아침은 올거야

약해지지 마 + 100세 세트 - 전2권
시바타 도요 지음, 채숙향 옮김, 문서빈 사진 / 지식여행 / 2011년 12월

친구가 이 책 세 세트 주문을 부탁했다.

주문 넣고 바로 다음 날 책이 도착해서 얼마나 놀랍던지!

평균 5~6일은 늘상 걸리두만 이번엔 이리도 빨리 배송되어서 의아했지.

내가 이 책 주문하길 학수고대하며 기다리고 있었나...라는 터무니 없는 생각까지...ㅋ

두 세트는 선물하고 하나는 본인 본다고, 반 값이라 부담스럽지 않아 좋다.

책이 우리 집으로 배달 되어서 내가 먼저 봐도 된다하니 그 친절이 얼마나 감사하던지!

한 세기를 사신 여인, 딸, 엄마, 아내로서의 그녀의 삶이 잔잔하게 녹아 있지만, 또 잔잔하지    

만은 않은 한 세기를 볼 수 있었다. 무엇보다 90 넘은 나이에 "약해지지 마'를 출간했다는

것 자체로 경이로운 일이 아닐텐가! 내가 90 이라면 일어나 앉아 있을 기운이나 있겠나!

누구의 90 은 오지 않을 시간이고, 누구의 90 은 여전히 뻐기고 싶은 시간이고,

누구의 90 은 죽음같은 시간이고, 누구의 90 은 후회의 시간이고,

누구의 90 은 창작의 시간이라니......

아침은 온다라는 그녀의 메시지는 그녀 삶을 대표하는 신념이었던 듯 하다.

간결한 언어로 표현된 100년의 삶, 우리의 어머니들께서 보셔도 좋을 듯 싶으니,

몇몇의 우리 어머님들을 위해 주문을 넣는다. 받아 보시고 좋아하실 그녀들의 얼굴이

벌써 떠오른다.

책 속에 있는 사진들은 일본이 아니고 우리나라 인 듯한데 왜 그렇게 엮었을까?

일본시인의 시라면 당연 일본 사진들이어야 자연스럽지 않을라나?

내 경우는 매치가 안되어서 error로 남는다.

What a mess!!

I didn't wash the dishes for the past two meals.

Do you see all the dirty dishes in the sink?

(Do you see the sink full of dirty dishes?)

Sometimes, it is not bad. Is it weird?

The more it messes, the more satisfaction I feel cleaning them.

Sometimes, I feel bad when I know that there are many chores to finish,

It makes me feel tired.

one of my students

I had a student who didn't enter  high school.

We had classes only for 6 months and he quit because of his bad behavior like smoking,

running away from house etc.

At first , I thought that he is different from other sts.

I thought that he needs a counselor therefore I searched for a counseling center

that runs in the city, which is free of charge.

Then, I recommended that his mother to take him to the counselor but his mother doesn't

have her own car. That's why I took him to the counselor every Tuesday.

Every after his consultation with the counselor, I had to speak with the counselor 

instead of his mother about him.

We only had 10 free consultation. Unfortunately, nothing happened after 10 times of

consultation. It wasn't helpful at all for us-him, his mother and I.

After that, he ran away form home. I phoned his friends to find out where he is.

He was near my city where it takes 2hours to get there by car.

His parents wouldn't want to do anything for him. That was not the first time.

I asked some advice from my husband and he told me this,

"You should go to that city to bring him back to his parents. There is nobody else who

can help him except you. You better go now!!"

Can you guess how kind he is?

Driving to the city, a thousand emotions crowded through my mind.

"What am I doing?...

Why am I going to this city?...

Why should I go there, not his parents? ...

Why?... Why?... Why?...

It will help him and encourage him...

I am doing well...

This is the best way...

He is my student...

I can turn him a good boy..."

Eventually, I foung him along with his friend so I took him and his friend back to their

parents.

A few days later, he couldn't keep studying with me, so he quit.

For 6months, I did my best to make him study hard but I failed.

I think the reason is that he has some trouble with studying.

 A year later, 

his mother called and told me that she moved and wanted to invite me to her new house

after arranging the house. But she hadn't called me yet and I am worried that something

unexpected happen to her.

Yesterday, I heard a news about him. His bad behavior gets worse and worse and

as well as his younger brother even though he is only 15 years old. 

To make matters worse, his mother has cancer. I am dumbfounded. I feel very sorry for them.

He was my student and I know how sad his mother is for them.

when he was my student, she and I talked a lot.

But I don't want to know their sorrow any more. I don't want to be hurt by them any more.

On the other hand, if she dies for cancer, I can guess how I will regret so much that I didn't

call to comfort. I'm afraid of that.

Here is the question Jason, 

What will I do?