[마이리뷰] The Art of Loving

The Art of Loving (Paperback) - 『사랑의 기술』영문판
에리히 프롬 지음 / HarperPerennial / 2006년 11월

One‘s ownperson becomes an instrument in the practice of the art, andmust be kept fit, according to the specific functions it has tofulfill. With regard to the art of loving, this means that anyonewho aspires to become a master in this art must begin by prac-ticing discipline, concentration and patience throughout everyphase of his life. - P102

Indeed, to be able toconcentrate means to be able to be alone with oneself-andthis ability is precisely a condition for the ability to love. If Iam attached to another person because I cannot stand on myown feet, he or she may be a lifesaver, but the relationship isnot one of love. Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is thecondition for the ability to love. Anyone who tries to be alone with himself will discover how difficult it is. - P103

Besides such exercises, one must learn to be concentratedin everything one does, in listening to music, in reading abook, in talking to a person, in seeing a view. The activity atthis very moment must be the only thing that matters, towhich one is fully given. If one is concentrated, it matters littlewhat one is doing; the important, as well as the unimportantthings assume a new dimension of reality, because they have one’s full attention. - P104

To be concentrated means to live fully in the present, inthe here and now, and not to think of the next thing to bedone, while I am doing something right now. Needless to saythat concentration must be practiced most of all by peoplewho love each other. They must learn to be close to each otherwithout running away in the many ways in which this is cus-tomarily done. - P106

While we teach knowledge, we are losing that teachingwhich is the most important one for human development: theteaching which can only be given by the simple presence of amature, loving person. In previous epochs of our own culture,
or in China and India, the man most highly valued was theperson with outstanding spiritual qualities. Even the teacherwas not only, or even primarily, a source of information, buthis function was to convey certain human attitudes. - P108

I said about the nature of love, the main condition for theachievement of love is the overcoming of one‘s narcissism. Thenarcissistic orientation is one in which one experiences as realonly that which exists within oneself, while the phenomenain the outside world have no reality in themselves, but areexperienced only from the viewpoint of their being useful ordangerous to one. The opposite pole to narcissism is objectiv-ity; it is the faculty to see people and things as they are, objec-tively, and to be able to separate this objective picture from apicture which is formed by one‘s desires and fears. - P109

The faculty to think objectively is reason; the emotionalattitude behind reason is that of humility. To be objective, touse one‘s reason, is possible only if one has achieved an atti-tude of humility, if one has emerged from the dreams of omni-science and omnipotence which one has as a child. - P111

our feeling of identity. Only the person who has faith in him-self is able to be faithful to others, because only he can be surethat he will be the same at a future time as he is today and,
therefore, that he will feel and act as he now expects to. Faithin oneself is a condition of our ability to promise, and since, asNietzsche said, man can be defined by his capacity to promise,
faith is one of the conditions of human existence. What mat-ters in relation to love is the faith in one‘s own love; in itsability to produce love in others, and in its reliability. - P162

To take thedifficulties, setbacks and sorrows of life as a challenge which toovercome makes us stronger, rather than as unjust punishmentwhich should not happen to us, requires faith and courage. - P117

[마이리뷰] Interviewing as Qualitative Research: A Guide for Researchers in Education and the Social Sci

Interviewing as Qualitative Research: A Guide for Researchers in Education and the Social Sciences (Paperback, 4)
Seidman, Irving / Teachers College Pr / 2013년 1월

When an IRB review is done well,
that is to say more as an educational process and less as a bureaucraticreview (J. Simpson, personal communication, June 2004), it can serve bothresearch participants and researchers well. For all of us involved in thistype of research, it is essential to point out that the IRB review process andinformed consent is a beginning and not the end of our ethical responsi-bilities to our participants (McKee, 2004).

[마이리뷰] Without a Doubt

Without a Doubt (Paperback)
Marcia Clark / Graymalkin Media / 2016년 4월

"I‘m not black, I‘m O. J.!"

In theyears since the verdict, I have gained a deeper understandingof why the jury acquitted Simpson and why mistrust of law enforcementis pervasive in the black community.

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the pervasive and deadly nature ofspousal abuse.

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[마이리뷰] The Art of Loving

The Art of Loving (Paperback) - 『사랑의 기술』영문판
에리히 프롬 지음 / HarperPerennial / 2006년 11월

This tendency coincides with a generalattitude characteristic of modern man. He lives in the past orin the future, but not in the present. - P93

Another form of projection is the projection of one‘s ownproblems on the children. First of all such projection takesplace not infrequently in the wish for children. In such casesthe wish for children is primarily determined by projectingone‘s own problem of existence on that of the children. Whena person feels that he has not been able to make sense of hisown life, he tries to make sense of it in terms of the life of hischildren. But one is bound to fail within oneself and for thechildren. - P94

Love is possible only if two persons communicate witheach other from the center of their existence, hence if each oneof them experiences himself from the center of his existence.
Only in this "central experience" is human reality, only here is - P95

aliveness, only here is the basis for love. Love, experiencedthus, is a constant challenge; it is not a resting place, but amoving, growing, working together; even whether there is har-mony or conflict, joy or sadness, is secondary to the fundamen-tal fact that two people experience themselves from the essenceof their existence, that they are one with each other by beingone with themselves, rather than by fleeing from themselves.
There is only one proof for the presence of love: the depth ofthe relationship, and the aliveness and strength in each personconcerned; this is the fruit by which love is recognized. - P96

I can refer to statements made in a previouspart of this book. Modern man has transformed himself into acommodity; he experiences his life energy as an investmentwith which he should make the highest profit, considering hisposition and the situation on the personality market. He isalienated from himself, from his fellow men and from nature. - P97

[마이리뷰] The Art of Loving

The Art of Loving (Paperback) - 『사랑의 기술』영문판
에리히 프롬 지음 / HarperPerennial / 2006년 11월

If one haschance to study the effect of a mother with genuine self-love,
one can see that there is nothing more conducive to giving achild the experience of what love, joy and happiness are thanbeing loved by a mother who loves herself.

These ideas on self-love cannot be summarized betterthan by quoting Meister Eckhart on this topic: "If you loveyourself, you love everybody else as you do yourself. As longas you love another person less than you love yourself, you willnot really succeed in loving yourself, but if you love all alike,
including yourself, you will love them as one person and thatperson is both God and man. Thus he is a great and righteousperson who, loving himself, loves all others equally."15 - P58