This tendency coincides with a generalattitude characteristic of modern man. He lives in the past orin the future, but not in the present. - P93
Another form of projection is the projection of one‘s ownproblems on the children. First of all such projection takesplace not infrequently in the wish for children. In such casesthe wish for children is primarily determined by projectingone‘s own problem of existence on that of the children. Whena person feels that he has not been able to make sense of hisown life, he tries to make sense of it in terms of the life of hischildren. But one is bound to fail within oneself and for thechildren. - P94
Love is possible only if two persons communicate witheach other from the center of their existence, hence if each oneof them experiences himself from the center of his existence.
Only in this "central experience" is human reality, only here is - P95
aliveness, only here is the basis for love. Love, experiencedthus, is a constant challenge; it is not a resting place, but amoving, growing, working together; even whether there is har-mony or conflict, joy or sadness, is secondary to the fundamen-tal fact that two people experience themselves from the essenceof their existence, that they are one with each other by beingone with themselves, rather than by fleeing from themselves.
There is only one proof for the presence of love: the depth ofthe relationship, and the aliveness and strength in each personconcerned; this is the fruit by which love is recognized. - P96
I can refer to statements made in a previouspart of this book. Modern man has transformed himself into acommodity; he experiences his life energy as an investmentwith which he should make the highest profit, considering hisposition and the situation on the personality market. He isalienated from himself, from his fellow men and from nature. - P97
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