Understanding Emotions

According to scientific findings, all thoughtsin the mind‘s memory bank under a filing systemare filetbased upon the associated feeling and its finer grada-tions (Gray-LaViolette, 1982). They are filed accordingto feeling tone, not fact. Consequently, there is a sci-entific basis for the observation that self-awareness isincreased much more rapidly by observing feelingsrather than thoughts. The thoughts associated witheven one feeling may literally run into the thousands.
The understanding of the underlying emotion and itscorrect handling is, therefore, more rewarding and lesstime-consuming than dealing with one‘s thoughts.
In the beginning, if one is unfamiliar with thewhole subject of feelings, it is often advisable to beginmerely by observing them without any intention ofdoing anything about them. In this way, some clarifi-cation will occur about the relationship between feelings and thoughts. - P34


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will suddenly be taken away in the middleof the night. You may worry that you are in the wrongroom. The wrong bed. The wrong life. That life out-side is rolling right along without you (it is). That youare not wanted (you are wanted). That you are notwell (you are not well). That you are not missed (butyou are, more than you will ever know).
AS THE DAYS slip by you will begin to forget moreand more. Your terrible childhood during the war.
All the beautiful gardens of Kyoto. The smell of rainin April. What you just ate for breakfast. Cream ofWheat, with sausage links and toast. The car accident,
forty-threehus-e years ago, that killed your favorite cousin,
Roy. You will forget the day you first met yourband. - P129


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The Swimmers: A Novel (Carnegie Medal for Excellence Winner) (Paperback)
Julie Otsuka / Anchor Books / 2023년 1월
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DIEM PERDIDI
She remembers her name. She remembers thename of the president. She remembers the nameof the president‘s dog. She remembers what town shelives in. And on which street. And in which house. Theone with the big olive tree where the road takes a turn.
is. She remembers theShe remembers what yearseason. She remembers the day on which you wereborn. She remembers the daughter who was bornbefore you-She had your father‘s nose, that was the firstthing I noticed about her-but she does not rememberthat daughter‘s name. She remembers the name of theman she did not marry-Frank-and she keeps hisletters in a drawer by her bed. She remembers thatyou once had a husband, but she refuses to rememberyour ex-husband‘s name. That man, she calls him.
p.77 <—> p. 95


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The Swimmers: A Novel (Carnegie Medal for Excellence Winner) (Paperback)
Julie Otsuka / Anchor Books / 2023년 1월
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She remembers that she was once a very good swimmer. She remembers failing her last driver’s test three times in a row. She remembers that the day after her father left them her mother sprinkled little piles of salt in the corner of every room to purify the house. She remembers that they never spoke of him.

She does not remember asking your father, when he comes home from the pharmacy, what took him so long, or who he talked to, or whether or not the pharmacist was pretty. She does not always remember his name.
p. 92

… trying to imagine the pool without us. The lifeguard’s empty chair standing tall by the bleachers. The scoreless scoreboard. The sharp chlorinated tang of the uninhaled thick wet air. The long-poled skimmer net proper up in the corner, secretly dreaming of better things — a dead leaf, a butterfly, a crocodile, a little brown bird, something, anything, besides the usual haul of rubber bands and tangled-up knots of hair.
p.73

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Winter in Sokcho (Paperback)
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Feels prone to pan out into a cliche plot, but the prose sustains a good depth and intensity.

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